Ever thought, why do we expect so much?? Specially in Relationships......
Why each of us out there has that long list of I WANT......
Half of the times our hearts and minds don't even say them, but still, they are there, deep inside us...
Yes..These are EXPECTATIONS and don't mistake them with Dreams...
Well I won't say that Expecting is BAD....but...EXPECTATIONS ARE DANGEROUS.....most of the times....cause most of the times we fail TO UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR PARTNER EXPECTS, AND SAME HAPPENS WITH US TOO....leading to..... SADNESS.
You must be wondering, why I have used this word...Dangerous? Well, that's because, it leads to an unexpected chain reaction of pressures, frictions, traumas, fights and eventually MISUNDERSTANDINGS.
The root cause of all misunderstandings in this world is....EXPECTATION.
You must have often heard people saying..." I had expected you....." and so on the argument begins leading to actually...NOWHERE....NOT EVEN A SOLUTION ACTUALLY.
So, is there actually a SOLUTION to this?? Well, my recent experience says.....YES!!!
BE FRANK TO EACH OTHER AS MUCH YOU CAN........SPEAK OUT...
JUST EMPTY YOUR BUCKETS ON THE OTHER...DON;T WAIT THEM TO OVERFLOW AND STINK...
BE RIDICULOUS...that means....Even if you feel ridiculous in telling your partner or friend what you are expecting and it could make them feel bad or vice versa, still..........DO IT....IT HELPS CLEAR DOUBTS AND MISCONCEPTIONS....
BE EQUAL....with each other and treat each other as equal partners. None of the other is weak, or gonna BEAR YOU ALL THE TIME.....so BETTER TAKE CARE OF THAT.
Well, these are just little TIPS from my side....HOPE IT HELPS and MAKES YOU AWARE....
As WE ARE BORN WITH EXPECTATIONS....and We must not KILL them literally...
EXPECTING also makes a RELATIONSHIP STRONG. Because you start doing things for your partner which you actually never thought you would have else.
But yes...LIFE AND LOVE IS NOT AT ALL ROSY...but you can surely make it one if you are willing to.
Why each of us out there has that long list of I WANT......
Half of the times our hearts and minds don't even say them, but still, they are there, deep inside us...
Yes..These are EXPECTATIONS and don't mistake them with Dreams...
Well I won't say that Expecting is BAD....but...EXPECTATIONS ARE DANGEROUS.....most of the times....cause most of the times we fail TO UNDERSTAND WHAT OUR PARTNER EXPECTS, AND SAME HAPPENS WITH US TOO....leading to..... SADNESS.
You must be wondering, why I have used this word...Dangerous? Well, that's because, it leads to an unexpected chain reaction of pressures, frictions, traumas, fights and eventually MISUNDERSTANDINGS.
The root cause of all misunderstandings in this world is....EXPECTATION.
You must have often heard people saying..." I had expected you....." and so on the argument begins leading to actually...NOWHERE....NOT EVEN A SOLUTION ACTUALLY.
So, is there actually a SOLUTION to this?? Well, my recent experience says.....YES!!!
BE FRANK TO EACH OTHER AS MUCH YOU CAN........SPEAK OUT...
JUST EMPTY YOUR BUCKETS ON THE OTHER...DON;T WAIT THEM TO OVERFLOW AND STINK...
BE RIDICULOUS...that means....Even if you feel ridiculous in telling your partner or friend what you are expecting and it could make them feel bad or vice versa, still..........DO IT....IT HELPS CLEAR DOUBTS AND MISCONCEPTIONS....
BE EQUAL....with each other and treat each other as equal partners. None of the other is weak, or gonna BEAR YOU ALL THE TIME.....so BETTER TAKE CARE OF THAT.
Well, these are just little TIPS from my side....HOPE IT HELPS and MAKES YOU AWARE....
As WE ARE BORN WITH EXPECTATIONS....and We must not KILL them literally...
EXPECTING also makes a RELATIONSHIP STRONG. Because you start doing things for your partner which you actually never thought you would have else.
But yes...LIFE AND LOVE IS NOT AT ALL ROSY...but you can surely make it one if you are willing to.
too much of it can be dangerous and not having it at all will strangle the relationship
ReplyDeletenice.. good.. made me realize and look into my own relationship.. thanks.. loved reading through
Rashmi
Hey Rashmi....Thank you :) I am really glad to know it will help you through..All the best :) We learn from our experiences only...
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